The Narcissist and their Fantasy World: If They Could Only Keep it to Themselves
Published at : 29 Dec 2020
The Narcissist and their Fantasy World: If They Could Only Keep it to Themselves Just about all of the great achievements of humanity started out in a person's mind and imagination. These achievements can be in art or science, in inventions, in social ideas, the list goes on. To give a few examples, the United States was an idea before it came into existence, music, sculpture and paintings are all conceived in the mind first. On a personal level, we all have hopes and dreams and plans for the future. We might want to own a yacht in our mind or be president of the United States, but most of us are aware that these thoughts are just a fantasy, “mind candy” if you want to call it that. Most people can usually tell the difference between PRACTICAL and IMPRACTICAL thoughts that occur in the mind and use their minds efficiently by putting almost all of their efforts into one: meeting their every day responsibilities, and two: making reasonable plans to move forward with life. These reasonable plans and expectations will always need to be governed by an honest assessment of your own capabilities and resources. In addition, those expectations are governed by the harsh fact that we are just one of many humans on this earth, no more or less important than the next person. The world does not revolve around or conform itself to the wishes of one person, the person has to conform to the world, a fact that the narc refuses to acknowledge. To put it another way, no matter how intense our “flights of fancy”, as we mature as adults we are able to intuitively understand that our dreams need to be in line with our capabilities and resources. To give an absurd example, in their mind a person may have the opinion they are able to fly, but in reality, they know they can't fly and wouldn't be foolish enough to jump off of a bridge. It is only when this imaginary mind, the source of all of the good and great things in this world, takes control and asserts itself that people become dysfunctional. So the person who really believes they can fly, or really believes they are president, or is a yacht owner or a millionaire, has taken a short cut and just decided that their imagination doesn't need to be governed by the reality of the world. This is considered mental illness, especially when it results in the person harming themselves or others. Why not just eliminate the middle man (otherwise known as the real world) and make your fantasy world YOUR reality. No one can tell you you aren't a millionaire, or the president, or that you can't fly, you have every right to believe these things. No one has the right to try to convince you that your assertions aren't true. This is the flawed, warped logic and reasoning of the mentally ill. So how does this relate to the narcissist? Well, the narc doesn't live in the extreme outward fantasies just described. The narc is much more subtle. The narc's fantasy existence appears plausible and realistic and reasonable, but it is no less a fantasy than the extreme cases mentioned above. That makes these fantasies extremely dangerous to the people unfortunate enough to be sucked into them. The narc's damage to themselves and others is COVERT, and undetectable to most in the outside world and the narc, only the victim, that has been used as a player in one of the narc's fantasy scenarios and then realized he was not in a real situation is aware of the narc's illness........